The Question That Changed My Game

For years, I’ve dreamt of broadening my impact.  I’ve dreamt of a future with the flexibility to enable me to spend more time with my son and pick him up from school.  Do you want to know the things I told myself and got in my way?  

“I can’t start coaching, my husband is making a transition this year and I need to keep things stable.”

“I can’t start my own gig, I’ll never find enough clients.”

“I just need to build up more of a safety net, then I can do the coaching thing.”

The list went on and on.

Then one weekend in January, I was asked the question that would change my game: 

“What if you knew you wouldn’t fail?”

Dang.  Mic drop.  

I honestly was stopped in my tracks.  What if I knew I wouldn’t fail? 

If I knew I wouldn’t fail, I’d claim a domain for a business name I’ve been thinking about for more than a year.  If I knew I wouldn't fail, I’d get a logo created and build a website. If I knew I wouldn't fail, and this is the big one, I’d tell all my friends and family I was starting my coaching certification.

The stories we tell ourselves are so powerful.  We all have an inner critic and an inner advocate.  This simple question has enabled me to turn the volume up on my inner advocate and turn down my inner critic.  

I now turn to you, what would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail?  What action or choice would you handle differently when thinking through this lens?

Now that you have that in mind, what will it feel like when you succeed?  What will it mean to you? What will it mean to your family?

As a human, a working mom, a wife, a friend, a sister and daughter, these questions have had a profound impact on me.  As a coach, I love the impact these questions have on my clients. To see when people begin thinking of their life as their own and as more, it’s inspiring.

So I ask again, what if you knew you wouldn’t fail?